Let it go

 

When it came to being “right” I always needed to make sure whoever I was debating knew I was right. I’d argue it and continually try t0 AT LEAST have the last word. You know, to let it sink in that I was right. 

When I was younger and full of spunk, before I was taught a few things about life, I just thought I had all the answers. Over the years I’ve realized that’s not even close. 

These days I’m open to hearing other sides. I’m open to discussion and debate. I’m all about common sense, so if it's a good argument, I might be swayed, but only if the conversation is two-ways. 

I have some strong beliefs. Some of those beliefs are based on values that were learned growing up. Some are from past experiences and failures, and many are rooted deeply in my Faith. 

I do believe I have good ideas, common sense ideals and strategic thinking, so if I do decide to debate something, I’m usually confident in my opinion. But I won’t always debate. 

I’ve learned that there are others whose beliefs are radically different from mine. Some people are not open minded or willing to even think about my argument. I could argue till I was blue in the face. I’ve been down this road with some people. It gets worse when there is a crowd involved because then groupthink takes over and validates even the most common sense, proven facts. 

The point I’m working towards is that some people are not open-minded enough to listen and actually think about some subjects. They won’t listen and won’t be swayed, which is sad because there are many ways to handle things and just because society or culture say it’s only this way…it rarely is. 

In situations like this, it's not worth the breath or effort. If there is no bend on either side, then it's wasted. It's better to leave it alone. I tend to either stay quiet or just not debate past saying I disagree when I run into someone who is not open to even listening.

And I try not to be that person. If I’m approached on a subject, I do my best to hear them out and think about it. I welcome give-and-take even on my most cherished beliefs. I’ve had discussions like this about faith. 

Being a God-fearing man, I’m doing my best to be a good Christian, not just going to church, but living a different style of life. Many of my beliefs are not inline with the trends of today’s culture. Many of today’s ideas are anchored in emotion, which is something few seem to be able to control these days, and there is a no win situation. 

I’m willing to talk about these things and will do it respectfully, but not if those same gestures are not reciprocated. A little heat in the discussion is good, but once we get to furious or lack common sense, I’ll just listen…no response. Not worth it. 

The key here is to pick your battles. If the other side is emotionally-powered or prideful, they will not be open to listen…and then you’re just wasting your time.